"If there ever comes a day when we can't be together, keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever."
~ Winnie the Pooh
Through pet loss counseling, my intention is to help you rebuild the foundations of your life and find a renewed sense of hope for moving forward.
My goal is to support you in dealing with the loss of your pet in a way that honors their legacy, your right to mourn and your continuing journey.
Pet loss counseling is offered individually, in pet bereavement groups and in art-shops throughout Central Oregon and via Skype/Phone. I help children, adults, elders and families.
The loss of a pet is simply not like the loss of a human. Pet loss is a unique kind of grief that is not to be underestimated. Their death shocks all of our systems, leaving us without our usual coping mechanisms and so often “others” don’t understand our experience so we are also left without our usual support systems.
The loss of a beloved pet can be one of the most confusing and sad times we’ll experience in our lives.
Even when our pet was old and had lived a good life, the waves of grief and the trauma of trying to get used to life without them can be excruciating. That trauma can be compounded exponentially when the pet’s life was cut short due to disappearance, accident or illness.
No matter the circumstances, a good guide on the grief and healing journey can help show you the way through and help the foreign land you suddenly find yourself in not feel so very scary. Knowing that you’re not alone in your feelings, that you’re not crazy, that the pain will someday reside is really what pet loss support is all about.
As a specifically trained pet loss counselor and an animal lover who has been down the road many, many times, I create a safe and compassionate space for you to process your loss, grieve your friend, integrate new ways of living without them and remember their specialness.
Here are blog-posts I have written on pet loss that provide a lot of useful information:
Coping with the loss of your pet: pet loss in a "nut shell" - what to expect, etc.
Time heals pet loss grief? If you're counting on this to heal your grief, you're in for a long journey.
When pet loss grief won't go away: there's "typical" grief and there's "complicated" grief - this blog helps you know the difference.
Not everyone understands: the nature of pets, people and grief groups: this post address something called "disenfranchised grief" and will help you with human interactions during grief.
Cultivate these life habits now to help you grieve the loss of your pet better: how to avoid "complicated" grief
Individual Pet Loss or Anticipatory Grief Counseling
"face to face" or over the phone; $50 per 50 minute session
or 2 sessions for $85; English-only; paid in advance.
FREE PET LOSS EDUCATIONAL GROUPS
Bend, OR: the third Tuesday of the month
4:30 - 6:00 PM
(Eastside) Bend Pet Express
We offer FREE pet loss educational groups to the public! These are on a "drop in" basis and feature discussion centered around a specific aspect of the grief-journey or pet-human bond and will help you understand the grieving process and give/receive emotional support.
2-WEEK PET LOSS CLASS
Limited to 5 participants
October 11 & 18 - 4:30 PM
These two weekly classes will be a combination of information and emotional support and will be the same 5 people each week. Classes will meet for an hour and a half and will include individualized homework. On Sunday, Oct. 22, there will be a non-denominational memorial ceremony.
The series of 2 classes plus ceremony is $50.
Complicated grief? If you've been grieving the loss of a pet for what feels like a long-time to you, chances are that something more than just grief is going on for you. So often, a profound loss will trigger our "other issues" or "repressed hurts" which interfere with and confuse our grieving process, prolonging it. This could look like an inability to let-go of feeling guilty about something, a refusal to give yourself permission to heal or anger that won't subside....As a Soul-Centered Therapist, I am highly skilled at treating issues which limit our healing and aliveness. Please see "Counseling" for more information.
The Association of Pet Loss and Bereavement, of which I am certified by and a member of, offers free pet loss chat rooms most evenings from 5 - 7 PM (Pacific-time) led be highly compassionate and incredibly well-trained volunteers. www.aplb.org